2 traditional gender roles apparent in my family: My dad works as a software engineer and earns money to support my family. My mom is a housewife so her time and focus are spent keeping the house and running it smoothly. Both my parents spend roughly the same amount of time and energy working, and the income earned by my dad is shared and used for the needs of everyone in the household. As a housewife, my mom does a large division of the housework. As the breadwinner, my father works hard as a software engineer to support us financially.
My dad still tries to help my mom in household labor as much as he can while managing his office work. In addition to splitting the household labor as much as possible, both my parents made a deliberate effort to be very involved in raising me. 2 roles in my family that does not follow traditional gender roles:Since men have been the head of the family, they had the power to make all the decisions and control the relationship. My mom’s role is a more submissive one.
It is common for my mom to make most of the decisions in the household especially when it comes to money. As most of the children are looked after by their mom in the household, I was mostly looked after by my dad. When I think back to my childhood, I realize that my father was greatly present in my childhood time on a day-to-day basis, despite balancing a notably demanding profession. He often left work early just to drive us to sports practices or dance rehearsals.
When I was young, he was always home for dinner. He helped me with my studies and always read me a bedtime story. On the weekends, he’d make a delicious breakfast or dinner for everybody and always take us out for shopping. In these ways, my family structure resembles an equal-parenting model. However, because my mother stayed at home, she was much more available and ultimately took on the majority of the household responsibilities. While my family did mostly follow the breadwinner-homemaker model on the surface, underneath the roles were moderately less traditional.
However, my family does still largely conform to gender norms.