At to act a certain way resulting in

At the start of an
early age boys and girls have a certain role to fulfil. The girls will play
together with the Barbie, have tea party and dress up like princess and the boy
will play tag, wrestle and play with car toys. Setting this up at an early age
links them to think and behave a certain way that is “normal” in society.
 In the article “Gender Wars: A Peace Plan” by Mark B. White and Kirsten
J. Tyson-Rawson, it talks about the issue of gender inequality in different
areas of our society. The article mentions the inequality that still persists
in all areas such as, participation in decision making and the exercise of
power, in private and social life, in promotion and in professional careers.

The author blames early
stages of childhood and the gender roles society has put on the parents and the
children to act a certain way resulting in gender inequality. Many will feel
pressured to act, look and think a certain way. When they want to act the non-traditional
way many fear the consequences they will face. This reflects heavily as they
get older eventually leading to their jobs. We see more men in the engineering
police, firefighter, doctor or mechanical field where women go into nursing,
interior decoration or fashion. Throughout this article, the authors talk about
gender based roles and gives an example of a couple Alex and Susan where they
fight through gender issues on a daily basis. “Gender is one of the first
things each of us learns about our self as a young child, and the gender roles
that we learn in our families continue to develop as we grow” (Gender Wars: A
Peace Plan). Before we are even born we are put in two different roles. The
article gives an example of how a child we automatically label the baby as “he”
or “she” and the boys will get everything blue while the girls get everything
in pink. This limits people to act their true self, not wanting to get judged
and get frown upon.

This article goes into
depth about the influence gender norms and society has made to the way we think
and react to certain things. The most surprising thing I have learned after
reading this article is that how by the time we are adult the way our parents,
schooling, media and society has brought us up has already shaped most of our
thoughts, emotions and belief systems. To me this article speaks volume on the
problems we are dealing with in the society today. We should not be afraid to
speak our mind, look and behave a certain way with the feeling of being judged.
I believe that the way one is brought up greatly affects the way they later
behave. Children act and learn from the adults and the situations they go
through. If we are all treated equally no matter the race or gender than that
sets up a great example for the future.  

I choose the topic
Gender Norms, because of my personal experience, where I have noticed the way
my brother and I were brought up was different. I am from Nepal, a country
where women and men are treated very differently. They don’t have many rights
and often after graduating high school they are to get married and bare
children. Although I moved here at the age of six, my parents were still
raised, brought up and lived in Nepal all their life. They have different sets
of ideas and values that they have learned to adapt over the years. Growing up
my brother would be able to go anywhere he wanted and come back at any time. I
however, was given a certain time to go and come back by and also, I was not
allowed to go anywhere alone. While reading the article “Gender Wars: A Peace
Plan” I’ve come to learn about gender organizes our behavior, our beliefs, and
our relationships, including how one should behave and act. What I have learned
through this article is that awareness is key. Becoming
more educated to the world is one way one might make a change and fight these
gender issues. People are still dealing with the pressure society puts
us on and how unknowingly we follow certain unspoken law and rules.