chapter 11

communication
the process of exchanging and interpreting ideas and feelings
communicator
the person who creates and send the message
message
the unit of information transmitted between sender and receiver
recipient
the receiver of the message
passive aggression
when a person expresses anger at someone but does so indirectly rather than directly
sabotage
one parter attempts to spoil or undermined some activity the other has planned
displacement
a persons direct anger at people or things that the other cherishes
four horseman of the apocalypse
conquest, death, war, famine
contempt
characterized by the intent to insult or abuse your partner
criticism
attacking personality rather than the specific behavior
defensiveness
defending yourself from a perceived attack will escalate an argument
stonewalling
a person refuses to listen to their partners complaints or stories(physically and emotionally)
belligerence
a behavior that is provocative and that changes the spouse power and authority
report talk
conversation aimed mainly at conveying information ( mens way of talking)
rapport
speaking to gain or reinforce rapport or intimacy(womens way of talking)
power
the ability to exercise ones will
equality
both partners should share equally in the rights and responsibly of the relationship
equity
the rewards and privileges of the relationship proportional to the contributions of the partners
emotional child abuse or neglect
involves a parents often being overly harsh and critical, failing to provide guidance or being uninterested in a childes needs
sexual abuse
a child being forced, tricked, or coerced into sexual behavior