Comparative study of Pakistani and Chinese MarriagecustomsMarriage Definition: Marriageformally recognized union between two people (Man and woman). Introduction: is very sensitive as a between man andwomen for lifetime. It is a kind of that love bond and that loveablerelationship in which husband and wife spend every. They share their happinessand love with each other. It’s not only the union of two peoples but also theunion of two perspective families. Sometimes marriage is arranged and sometimesit depends on likeness by both partners. Every country has its own marriagetraditions and culture values, but one thing is same all over the globe that is ‘different but love is same.
Here wewill discuss marriage customs and traditions of Pakistan and culture. Marriagetraditions of Pakistan and marriage culture.Body: Pakistani marriage has many events givenbelow.1. Before marriage· Searchfor proposal· Proposal· Engagement2.
Wedding· Dholkibefore few days of wedding· Ubtan· Rasmeheena· Marriageceremony· Nikkah· AarsiMushaf Dikhana· Rukhsati· Dinner· Gifts· Waleema3. Honey moon· Shab-e-Zifaf4. RegionalVariations· Attan· Baraat· Bijjar· Dastarbandi· Dholki· Doodhpilai · Haldi· Jolbandi· Maklava· Mobaraki· Paondhulai· Saami5. Religious Customs· HaqMahr6. Marriage songs7. ReferencesSearch for proposal: For wedding of boyor girl is usually done by family this effort is done by any matrimonial sitesor relatives or third party member. But now-a-days this trend is losingpopularity.
Boys and girls now-a-days select their partners by themselves andgo to court for marriage because they have their own mindset and both familymembers are against of it. Some marriages are arranged by parents and bothpartners understand each other and compromise with each other for themselvesand for their family. Some marriages are arranged and there is likeness fromboth sides, both partners told to their parents and they send proposal to girlshome and they accept and marry both of them, it’s called semi.
Proposal: send proposalmessage to brides home. And grooms family pay potential visit to brides home,and the first visit is purely for the parties to acquaint with one another andfor formal proposal. whether they like or dislike each other or not. If both ofthem like each other than proposal message sent to brides home for her hand inmarriage, where elder members of groom’s family asked to bride’s family formarriage proposal.
After acceptance both families, grooms family give gifts tobride and brides family offer sweets to grooms family to start a newrelationship not refreshments are served by bride’s family in happiness for newlife.Engagement:After few days ormonths of accepting marriage proposal from both sides a ceremony is held byboth families to mark the engagement of couple and is called engagement ormangni in Urdu language. It is a small family function in which just couplefamilies are involved and they exchange rings to each other.
In traditionalvalues both couple don’t sit together, families elder members do this ceremonyand exchange rings between boy and girl. Then a prayer and blessings arerecited for the couple and the wedding date is decided.Wedding:Wedding arearranged by family members of couple and it is different from each otheraccording to ethnic background and religion. However a typical wedding hasthree major events Rasm-e-heena, nikkah and waleema.Rasme-heena:groom also wearkhussa as a cultural shoe. Bride also wear jewelry depend on ethnic backgroundand regional values.
In the start ofthe function, hundred rupee note is set to the bride hand and then elder membersstart the function and apply little mehndi on girls hand and then little pieceof sweet is fed to the bride and little amount of oil is applied to the girlshead. Then in similar function continues and in the end there is some musical playingtime. Same way of function is done by boy’s side. Family members singtraditional songs and there is a competition of songs between both families andfunction ends gradually.Marriage ceremony:This ceremony isdifferent according to different cultures. In Punjabi culture this function isorganized by bride’s family.
But in baloch wedding this is settled by groom’sfamily. Now-a day’s people don’t trouble themselves and organize function nmarriage halls and hotels.Nikkah: Nikkah ceremony, a very holy ceremony is doneby Imam, mufti, sheikh or mullah. This is day when both bride and groom accepteach other as husband and wife in the presence of their family members and inthe presence of religious people to do it rightly.
Firstly grooms Imam goes togrooms side and said some religious words from “RELIGION HOLY BOOK CALLED AS QURAN-E-PAK”. Groomfollow and recite those lines and then give his signature on 4 papers with allreligion or family terms and conditions given by bride’s family. Then pray andblessings are done by all guests for couple happy and prosperous life ahead.Same procedure is followed by brides side, but bride didn’t explore her face infront of unknown person until nikkah ceremony is done Then pray and blessingsis done by all guests for couple happy and prosperous life ahead.Aarsi Mushaf Dikhana:Arsi mushaf dikhaicommonly called as “Mun dikhai rasm” “Showing of the face ofbride and girl to each other”. Greenembroidered shawlis usually held over the couples head and mirror is given tothem so that they can see each other first time in the mirror. Then couple eata piece of fruit or sweet with each oDinner:A dinner is served which is consisted of kebabs, naan,shirmal.taftan falooda and kulfi etc.
Various forms of meat like roastedmutton, beef, chicken, pulao, biyani, chaanp and chargha served.Gifts:It is customary for a bride and groom to receive redenvelope of money and a lot of gifts from cousins from guests, friends andfamily in reception. Then newly married couple received dinner or partyinvitations from friends and family members to receive reception.Honeymoon:Walima andShab-i—Zifaf:Mahr:Mahr is a mandatory payment, in the form of money orpossessions that will be paid by the groom to the bride. While the mahr is often money, it can alsobe anything agreed upon by the bride such as jewelry, home goods, furniture, adwelling or some land.
Mahr is typically specified in the marriage contractsigned during an Islamic marriage.Songs:Different marriagesongs were singing and played for enjoyment. Traditional Chinese marriage customsTraditional Chinese marriage is verydifferent from modern Chinese marriage trend. Wedding rituals and customs aredifferent regionally, because china has a long, rich and extensive history ofdifferent cultures that have been subsumed into modern Chinese culture.
1. Etymology2. Marriage in Confucian context3. Ancient chinese marriage· Marriagein early societies· Mythologicalorigin· Historicmarriage practices· Maternalmarriage and monogamy· Marriagematters in Xinjiang· Marriageduring the Han dynasty 4. Traditional marriage rituals· Sixetiquettes5.
Modern practices6. Traditional divorce process7. ConclusionEtymology: In ancient writingfor the word ?? has (pinyin: h?n, literally means ” dusk, nightfall, twilight,dark”) and theradical ? (pinyin: n?, literally “a female”). It meansif marriage is done at night it will bring fortune for the couple going to bemarried.In Confucian though, marriage have grave significance of boththe families and to societies as well as being important of virtue.
Its mainpurpose that both families have got same surname and family line and paternalclan. It is because of birth of boy over girl. During the Han Dynasty, the rulers of the powerful Xiongnu tribe demanded women from the imperial family.
Many periods of Chinese history were dominated by the families of the wife or motherof the ruling emperor.In maternal marriage cases husband livesin wife’s home, and this trend causes the decline of matriarchy and growingdominance of patriarchy in ancient china.According to Islamictradition Muslims men or women should marry to Muslim person. But in XINJIANG aChinese man married to Muslim turkey women because she was poor.
Otherwise shewill become a prostitution to live. In this way she got benefit of that shedoes not have to veil even mullah forces her to do this, because chinese mangive her money for not only for her but also for her family members.Chinese marriage system wasstarted between 42 and 221 BC. Instead of Chinese wide cultural system thereare three letters and six etiquettes. According to this tradition wife’s mother cannot go to herdaughter’s house for one year but daughter can go anytime to her mother’s home.