If you could count all the moments where you’ve degraded yourself, how big would the sum be? The majority of teenagers face low self-esteem at some point during adolescence, but several aspects of our environment, as well as the media, has gradually increased feelings of low self esteem. What makes this so concerning is the way our youth copes with these feelings. The uncertainty and lack of confidence among teenagers is, to an extent, a part of growing up. But when it begins to impact the actions or decisions of a student, it becomes more than a phase.Several teachers at J-town have observed how students allow their grades and school performance to suffer, but why? Some may say its laziness, or irresponsibility, but on many occasions, it’s because those students don’t have the confidence to do well. They don’t think they are capable of having nice grades or high test scores; they have lowered their standards in order to match their self-esteem. Once this process begins, that poor self- image can spiral into something much worse. “A lack of confidence can manifest itself in several ways,” Says Mrs.
Smith, the school counselor. “Vive seen students deal with it through self-harm, eating disorders, and even promiscuity. A lot of times, one of the main roots to these problems is their self-esteem. They feel alone in their struggle, and it makes it worse. ” My own experiences with self-esteem can correlate to this.
Vive struggled with an eating disorder for several years, and my lack of communication was practically the death of me. Last year my doctor explained that my body was going to shut down.I as thirty pounds underweight, and my heart rate was twenty beats below the minimum amount. The solution to this sounds easy, right? I Just had to eat. It sounds simple. Unfortunately, it never is. In order to begin recovery, I had to improve my distorted body image, as well as my self-esteem in general. As my mindset began to improve, I realized that I wasn’t alone in my struggle.
Vive met several girls, and even boys, who battle with body image and confidence. “l always hear my friends complaining about themselves. They say they need to diet or change something about how they look. Says Kennedy Brinkley, a senior at J-Town. “We were given the bodies we were given for a reason. It’s not about how you look; it’s about how you embrace yourself. ” The best advice Vive gotten on this subject was always the advice I never took: Talk to somebody.
For a lot of us, talking about how we feel is not only strange, but uncomfortable. As a result, those negative feelings continue to grow, and they turn into something monstrous. It took me several years to finally get the nerve to basically ay, ‘I’m not okay.I don’t feel okay about myself. ‘ But once I did that, my self-esteem gradually improved.
When you know that someone is there to help you, it can make all the difference. One of the simplest ways to do this is at school. The teachers and staff at I-town are more than willing to lend an ear to students.
You may not realize it, but your well- being means a lot to them. And if that sounds like an awful idea, find a friend, or a trusted adult, or a stranger for all it matters. Just know that we all share burdens, and