This is the quote that I have been holding for many years as a motivation for myself. This quote also makes me believe that hardship is the best way for me in order to know this world better. It also helps me to become a better person from time to time. From the day I started to know this world until now, I am never alone. Hardships, failures and sometimes successes have been my loyal friends for many years.
They are always with me wherever I go. Although sometimes they lead me to frustration, suffer and pain but at the same time they inspired me to become a stronger, mature and motivated person. They give me the strength to face another hardship in the future. They also teach me how to adapt myself in this challenging world. All of these have made me understand that the hardship is actually to prepare myself to become the best person that can be. Since nobody can avoid hardship, I choose to face it with acceptance, patience and determination. The best cure for hardship is patience.
Although, it may not heal people immediately, but at least it can reduce the pain that people always have to suffer because of hardship. Was born in a big family. I have eight siblings; with two boys and six girls including me. I am the youngest one in my family. My father was a contractor and my mother was a teacher. However, when I was 3 years old, my mother dropped her work since most of my siblings were studying and my mother wanted to focus herself on her children. Although my mother was not working, we never had any financial problems because my fathers salary was more than enough for us. We live in comfort and usury.
However, every cloud has a silver lining, when I was 6 years old, my father’s company faced a great trouble. He had been cheated by his own best friend which he trusted so much. Because of some reasons that I am not really sure, my father signed the project payment before he got the money. It was a chalet project which was a huge project and cost a big amount of money. Because of that, my father had to be responsible for all of his employees’ salary. In order to pay back all the money, my father used all of his savings money. My mother also sacrifices all of her jewelries to help my ether to pay the money.
Although the payment problems were settled, my father’s company was still not stable. They did not have enough financial support to start any project. Finally, my father was announced bankrupt and his company was open for auction. After that moment, my life had totally changed. We lived in a condition that we had never been before. Every day, my father would send me to school with motorcycle as we no longer had car. Sometimes had to go home from school by my own when my father busy searching for a new work. We also need to minimize the uses of electricity, eater and even food. My mother also started to work with canteen tender as a cook.
Though it was hard to accept the drastic change in my new life, but I learned many things from that. With a great patience in facing those hardships, I and my family grew to become a stronger person than we was before. Hardship comes in a form of lost and changes that will teach people about acceptance and facing reality. It taught me to always be prepared and accept whatever destiny that comes to me. A quote by William James, said that ‘Acceptance of what has happened is the first step of overcoming the uniqueness of any misfortune?. At the age of 13, was sent to a boarding school in Clangor while my family stayed in Skeletal.
It was the first time was away from my family. Every day, will call my parents to know how they were doing at home and complained about my life in a hostel. Living in a hostel was challenging as needed to do all the things on my own. Still had a problem in managing my time in hostel. The timetable was too packed. Always need to stay up late to finish my homework. I also needed to wake up early in the morning to make sure that did not have to queue to get a bath. In the time that I was trying my best to adapt with the hostel life, I got a bad news from my teacher.
The teacher said that my father passed away and need to hurry because my sister would fetch me shortly. It was a great shock for me and was speechless. While I was struggling to fit with my new life, my father suddenly left me without any words. It was not even 10 years and my life had changed again. Still can feel the pain that me and my family felt before and now I need to feel it again. At that time, I felt like I wanted to give up. I cannot endure any changes in my life anymore. After that tragedy, I always lost my focus in studying. I kept crying alone and isolated away from people.
I cannot catch-up my study and my result become had become much worse. I did not know how I can live my life without my father, the one who always boosts my spirit. However time heals all wounds, with my mother that is always with me, realized that I need to be strong as the fact that people come and go and it is inevitable. Also tried my best to accept the circumstances and lived in reality. Although I lost my father, I still have my mother who loves me more than herself. Therefore, promised to myself that ill never cry anymore and cherish all the moments that I have with my mother.
Determination is one of the ways to overcome any misfortune. Once people are determined to help themselves, there is nothing that can stop them. Living as a student, it is inevitable to live without any problems especially in studying. During my lower secondary school I was placed in a last class Of my batch. All the students in that class were low grade student. Most of us did not score in our final examination. Because of this reason, most teachers that taught us always complained and compared us with other students. Sometimes, all of these made me felt ashamed to confront my teachers and my friends especially from other classes.
Some of the teachers were being pessimist to us and said that we will never succeed. These entire criticisms made us believed that we are meant to fail forever. I lost my hope in studying and started to neglect my study. However, there was a teacher named Miss Hanta, who taught Science subject for our class that was very optimistic towards us. She told us that we were not stupid and we can also be good in our study as long as we want to study harder from that day onwards. Every ay, when she entered my class she will gave us advices and motivations for us to wake up from other people perception toward us.
She wanted us to prove to the other teachers that we also can be good students just like others. With a full support from Miss Hanta, all of us including me promised that we will change ourselves to become a good student. Although sometimes the critics from other teachers kept bothering me, I took it as a challenge and wanted to prove to them that they were wrong. With full determination and support from the people around me, I hoped that I will be an excellent detent not only in academics but also in other fields. Reminiscing all these moments are actually painful for me.
Growing up in this kind of life was not even in my dream. However, I know that everything that happened to me before this and after this will help me to become a better person in life. That is the reason why we need to always be grateful with what has been given to us. To recall all the hardships that I faced before, would never expect that now, I am preparing myself to study abroad which I thought that I would never afford because of our financial problems. To member myself as a person who lived without a love from a father at a young age, never thought that successfully survive and live happily until now.
Thinking back to my history to see myself as a low grade student, it is hard to believe that I finally managed to get sponsorship for my study. All of these destinies are too extraordinary for me. I had been given so many blessings after my hardships. Therefore, if I had to face even a thousand more hardships after this, I will never turn back. I will endure, and face it because I strongly believe that “Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.